Why Give & Take Doesn’t Belong in Relationships

There is amazing joy possible in relationships. We can truly love and feel loved. We can merge together and experience union. We can feel safe to grow and be vulnerable. We can be strong for each other. We can feel the kind of intimacy where we can let down all of our guards and be fully seen and loved and accepted. This is the kind of union that we are designed for. “Give and take” doesn’t belong in that kind of relationship. “Give and take” asks us to put a certain amount of something into a central pot - [...]