We know how the power of intention works. We focus on a particular desire or intention long enough and it will manifest. There are many versions of how this works but the premise is the same. This is something that we like to believe in because it gives us a sense of the power that we have in our lives.

The part of this process we know less about is the importance of surrender. This is a much scarier idea.

Many of us have real discomfort with the idea of letting go of control, disengaging our clever, cynical or protective minds and letting ourselves flow with “what is”.

This idea of having the power to create our lives through intention and the seeming lack of power of surrender seem to be a contradiction… when in fact, they work hand in hand to create the life we love.

Why Surrender is Difficult

We have been taught that surrendering is what weak people must do in the face of a powerful force. We mostly hear about it in the context of war – one side having to surrender (thereby losing everything) at the hands of a conquering oppressor.

This idea that is embedded in our psyche makes the idea of surrender quite difficult.

And then within our religious teachings, God is often taught to be angry, violent and jealous. On occasion there are teachings of a loving God. But many people have not actually experienced real, unconditional love in their lives. Based on their upbringing, love could mean anger, violence and jealousy. This of course, isn’t love at all… but it is still deeply embedded in our culture.

And so, we tend to live in the opposite state to surrender – a state of protectiveness, ready for the next bad thing to happen, ready to defend ourselves physically, emotionally and mentally.

So, how do we learn to surrender?

The Power of Surrender

The key is that we are not surrendering to anything like those things. We are surrendering to something much greater – the bigger picture that we are all a part of.

Sometimes, we have a hard time imagining ourselves as part of something larger. We tend to depend on our mind to understand the world around us. So, when we imagine what is possible in life, we often default to what our brain thinks is possible. However, our brains are filled with all of our past experiences, trainings and fears. This makes what is possible quite limited… when it isn’t limited at all.

The challenge is that we can’t quantify this greater picture. We can’t describe it in our normal words. All descriptions become very vague and somewhat “flakey”. But once we start having experiences of this reality, little seeds of “something else” start to take root.

There is often a point in our life where we experience our first “coincidence” that seems like it’s just too much to believe that it’s random. The experience opens us up to something – like a crack in our rational version of the universe that makes us wonder if we have all the information. And then another “something” happens that just doesn’t make sense. The right person shows up at the right time. You start to notice serendipity all around you.

When this happens, this is often the beginning of our “spiritual journey” in life. We start to study spiritual teachings to try to find a framework for these experiences that just don’t make sense in the secular worldview.

As time goes on, our connection to a deeper whole begins to strengthen. Bit by bit, we start to trust the serendipity more than what our brains and the world tells us is possible. We start having a kind of faith that things always seem to work out.

It is when we feel this connection deep within that surrender becomes possible.

Surrendering isn’t taking our hands off the wheel and just letting go. It is feeling and trusting that we are part of something much larger and more amazing than we can imagine.

All the Colourful Possibilities

So, let’s go back to the Power of Intention. Let’s say that we have an intention to be at peace, or happy, or in love, or fully utilized in our work (it is often more effective to focus on how you want to feel rather than what you want to have or accomplish). Our mind can only come up with a limited number of potential ways that we can manifest what we want.

But we are playing in an unlimited universe.

This is where surrender comes in.

If we don’t surrender after stating our intention, we will miss out on 99.999999% of the possible solutions. There are literally so many possible ways of achieving what we desire that our brains cannot fathom it. And so, we must surrender.

Of course, this surrender does not mean doing nothing. It means surrendering to inner guidance and taking steps towards our goal that we might never had thought of or imagined before.

The amazing bonus of this is that this is where life gets really interesting. On some level, when we live within the constraints and possibilities that our minds can come up with, we end up existentially bored. Although a part of us wants a certain amount of comfort in knowing what is coming tomorrow, after a time, we start to stagnate as humans. We stop needing to respond to the world around us. We stop needing to think and use our intuition. We essentially stop growing.

But when we surrender, we get to be continually surprised.

We get to wonder what the path will look like on the way to our destination.

It is like wanting to climb a mountain and asking a trusted guide to lead us there.

We get to relax, look around, be surprised, and enjoy the journey.

Further Study

Being able to surrender asks us to be able to trust what we feel within. It asks us to feel a connection with the world around us that we cannot see – the spiritual world, the energetic world… however you understand this.

The following two courses are wonderful personal journeys to not only heal us, but to help us to listen and trust our own personal intuitive guidance.

The Spiritual Path of Tantra

This is the journey of becoming fully tantric. It is bringing ourselves to wholeness, full integration of our spiritual and physical lives, and finding the deep happiness that we know is within us. It is 8 modules with teaching videos, personalized homework and exercises.

Plus, you can ask questions and get insights all along the way.    $297 CAN

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Meditation for Active Minds

Listening within requires us to have a calm space within. For anyone with an active mind and busy life, finding this inner sanctuary can be quite a challenge. This is a 10-week video course delivered to you by email. Each week, we will discuss an aspect of meditation and then learn a new kind of meditation to cultivate all the different parts of us that bring us to that peaceful place.

By the end, you will be able to pick and choose the kinds of meditation that best suits you for all the different times that we live through.   $49 CAN

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Would you like to have a chat together? I find that today we don’t need “counselling” as much as we benefit from having conversations together. We all have our own guidance to follow and the ability to hear and trust this guidance is what is most important.

So, if you are seeking a different way of looking at things, a tantric perspective, an intuitive ear or just a friend to talk to, I am happy to have a chat.

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