Love and connection is part of being human. We can live without money, success, and a perfect body. But when we lack true connection with people who see us for who we really are, something dies inside of us. Love and connection feeds us, makes us know that we belong to something bigger, and makes us feel complete.
This includes connections with others and connection to our deepest self. In fact, these are one and the same – just showing up differently.
Why do we struggle with love and intimacy?
Sometimes we have never experienced it. We naturally assume that what we experienced growing up was all that there was. It’s only later in life that we realize that there is something missing. Sometimes we are born to wealth or status which causes us to always question why someone wants to be close to us. Sometimes we have been really hurt and have important defences up to protect ourselves from further harm.
Sometimes it is the connection to our own self that blocks intimacy. When we are not fully loving who we are, it can be hard to open ourselves in vulnerability because we don’t want the other to see the parts of us that we don’t like – because if we don’t like these parts, certainly another person won’t like them either and we will end up alone. So, we keep our cards close and never get to experience full connection.