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How Our Differences Can Bring Us Together

Yesterday, I was walking with my friend and we were singing an old song from our childhood that went: "One of these things are not like the other. One of these things just doesn't belong." We have been taught to find differences in things since we were children. The problem is that we believe that different means separate.  But science says something different. Quantum physics shows us that we all come from a "unified field". We are all made of the same things. That ecosystems thrive on diversity. That different doesn't mean separate at all.  [...]

By |2020-08-14T15:05:03-04:00August 14th, 2020|Categories: Emotional Health, Hope, Philosophy, Relationships, Spiritual Growth|Tags: , , |0 Comments

Why Give & Take Doesn’t Belong in Relationships

There is amazing joy possible in relationships. We can truly love and feel loved. We can merge together and experience union. We can feel safe to grow and be vulnerable. We can be strong for each other. We can feel the kind of intimacy where we can let down all of our guards and be fully seen and loved and accepted. This is the kind of union that we are designed for. “Give and take” doesn’t belong in that kind of relationship. “Give and take” asks us to put a certain amount of something into a central pot - [...]

How Do We Stop Fighting About Covid?

We have become incredibly polarized in our current time. Why are we fighting so much? Why is it so hard to see other people’s point of view? Why is Covid-19 now in the same category as religion and politics - not to be discussed in polite company? What if we could not only stop fighting about this, but we could actually learn from each other, expanding our understanding of the world? What if we could  use the controversy that we are experiencing to our advantage? A few nights ago, my grown daughter called me wanting to understand why I [...]

By |2020-05-13T22:44:46-04:00May 11th, 2020|Categories: Philosophy, Relationships|Tags: , , , |0 Comments

Why Talking to Strangers about the Weather is Important

I love talking to strangers... well, I love talking to people period. And this includes people I’ve known and loved for a long time and total strangers in the street, behind the cash register, and even driving in the car next to me while stuck in traffic. And yet, as I walked to Starbucks this morning at 6am, the streets were empty and every so often, I would pass someone. Sometimes they would easily turn to me, smile and say “Good morning”. But more often, they would make an effort to look the other way and not make connection. [...]

By |2020-02-17T20:44:40-04:00February 17th, 2020|Categories: Relationships|Tags: , , , , |0 Comments

The Choices We Make When We’re Lonely

I found myself sitting in a walk-in clinic in Toronto and wondering if the cute doctor was working. A few years ago, I was anemic and had been visiting the clinic regularly for blood tests and there was one particular doctor who was just a lovely human (and pretty cute). And as I sat there, memories from back then came flooding back. I remember becoming a little obsessed with him. I looked for him on Facebook. I remember wondering if he was single. When I figured out that he had a girlfriend, I creeped her photos. As I think [...]

By |2019-09-03T13:44:32-04:00September 3rd, 2019|Categories: Hope, Relationships, Spiritual Growth|0 Comments

Love May Be Hiding in Plain Sight

People are falling in love all around me. Yesterday, I met a new friend who said that she met a man and has fallen in love. Two days before that, a good friend came for lunch. “You wouldn’t believe it. She lived right down the street from me.” A week before that, another friend fell in love with a man she met on Tinder. Today, I found out that another friend is dating a man who is blowing her mind. And what do all of these stories have in common?  THEY NEVER WOULD HAVE RECOGNIZED THIS PERSON. In every [...]

By |2020-01-21T17:26:36-04:00May 17th, 2019|Categories: Relationships|0 Comments

A Graceful Exit – Divorcing in Love

Whenever I told people that we were separating, the overwhelming response was, “OMG what happened? You guys were SUCH A GREAT COUPLE!” The assumption was that there had to be “something” that “broke us up”. But the truth was, after over 20 years, whether we wanted it or not, our paths had diverged. It was the clearest moment when I knew that it was over. I wanted something. He didn't want it. There was a passive power struggle (we were both peace-keepers). And the realization hit me that we actually wanted different things in life now. Our children were nearly [...]

By |2020-01-21T17:36:41-04:00January 8th, 2018|Categories: Relationships, tantra|Tags: , , , , , , |0 Comments