Why Give & Take Doesn’t Belong in Relationships

By |2020-07-21T17:06:06-04:00July 21st, 2020|Categories: Emotional Health, Feminine, Relationships, tantra|Tags: , , , , |

There is amazing joy possible in relationships. We can truly love and feel loved. We can merge together and experience union. We can feel safe to grow and be vulnerable. We can be strong for each other. We can feel the kind of intimacy where we can let down all of our guards and be fully seen and loved and accepted. This is the kind of union that we are designed for. “Give and take” doesn’t belong in that kind of relationship. “Give and take” asks us to put a certain amount of something into a central pot - both giving and taking in equal value. It assumes an amount of compromise so that things are “fair”. But these dynamics are based on the assumption that there is real separation in the relationship - that there is no real intimate connection. This is what leads us to having to [...]

An Interesting Time to Ask Questions

By |2020-07-10T00:07:07-04:00July 9th, 2020|Categories: Mystic Life, Philosophy, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality|Tags: |

The other day, my friend asked me why I was always such a rebel. We had been discussing the pandemic and I was sharing different ideas that I was thinking about. She asked me why I questioned everything. Why couldn’t I just accept what I was being told as truth? I didn’t have an answer for her right away. A few days ago, I watched the documentary about David Bohm, a quantum physicist who worked with incredible minds like Einstein, Oppenheimer and many of the founding fathers of physics. One of the things that really stood out for me was that people who were interested in quantum physics were always asking questions. They were always challenging the status quo. And not because they were rebels or difficult, but because the current scientific model didn’t explain everything in the universe… and this is the goal of science. These models specifically [...]

Do Beauty Filters Make Us Feel Ugly?

By |2020-06-19T15:59:25-04:00June 19th, 2020|Categories: Emotional Health, Mental Health, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality, Teen angst|Tags: , , , |

Using a filter to make ourselves look more beautiful seems like a fun thing to do. We get to look more like a model. We get to see a kind of “perfect” version of ourselves. It seems like fun. But what if it’s actually sending us unconscious messages that we aren’t good enough? Or that we are actually ugly? What if these seemingly innocent filters are actually causing more damage than good? Did She Get Plastic Surgery? I was sitting a friend’s house the other day who doesn’t use social media and doesn’t know much about smartphone technology. She had seen a picture of a mutual friend of ours and couldn’t believe how different she looked. She asked me, “Did she get plastic surgery or something? I could sort of tell that it was her… but she just looked so different.” I looked at the picture and told her [...]

The Importance of Crying

By |2020-06-19T16:08:22-04:00June 19th, 2020|Categories: Feminine, Hope, Philosophy, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Who knew that crying was such an important part of our mental and emotional health? Crying has often been treated like a bad thing, a sign that we are weak and unable to handle life… when in fact, it is the total opposite. The ability to cry shows that we are safe enough in the world to let go and be totally honest with ourselves. It’s knowing that when the tears stop flowing, everything will be so much better. Honesty Sadness is a real thing. Anger is a real thing. Disappointment is a real thing. But we’ve been taught that they are not ok, that we should be thankful for what we have and that we shouldn’t burden other people with our problems. We are taught this as young children when we are sent to our rooms because we are upset. We are often told to “come back when [...]

How to Surrender to Manifest our Desires

By |2020-06-09T16:27:15-04:00June 9th, 2020|Categories: Hope, Philosophy, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality|Tags: , , , , |

We know how the power of intention works. We focus on a particular desire or intention long enough and it will manifest. There are many versions of how this works but the premise is the same. This is something that we like to believe in because it gives us a sense of the power that we have in our lives. The part of this process we know less about is the importance of surrender. This is a much scarier idea. Many of us have real discomfort with the idea of letting go of control, disengaging our clever, cynical or protective minds and letting ourselves flow with “what is”. This idea of having the power to create our lives through intention and the seeming lack of power of surrender seem to be a contradiction… when in fact, they work hand in hand to create the life we love. Why Surrender [...]

How Do We Stop Fighting About Covid?

By |2020-05-13T22:44:46-04:00May 11th, 2020|Categories: Philosophy, Relationships|Tags: , , , |

We have become incredibly polarized in our current time. Why are we fighting so much? Why is it so hard to see other people’s point of view? Why is Covid-19 now in the same category as religion and politics - not to be discussed in polite company? What if we could not only stop fighting about this, but we could actually learn from each other, expanding our understanding of the world? What if we could  use the controversy that we are experiencing to our advantage? A few nights ago, my grown daughter called me wanting to understand why I saw the current situation the way I did. She said that she had done some research and just couldn't come up with the same conclusions that I believed so strongly. She said that she respected my opinion and genuinely wanted to understand where I was coming from. So, I presented [...]

What Would Green Economy Look Like?

By |2020-04-21T18:06:21-04:00April 21st, 2020|Categories: environment, Hope, Mystic Life, Philosophy, Spiritual Growth|Tags: , , , , , |

Dreaming in a new world. What would a green economy look like? What would it take to have an environmentally friendly way of living? Right now, a country’s success is often gauged by its GDP, its Gross Domestic Product. This measures much a country produces in a year? Since this is a measure of success, the obviously desire is to maximize it. This seems reasonable. A strong country would manufacture many things. It is a sign of great productivity, prowess and vision. The problem is that the only way to manufacture things is to consume natural resources. By maximizing production, we are maximizing the consumption of our natural resources which are obviously limited. At some point, we are going to run out. So within this model of believing that the success of a country is based on its Gross domestic product, we will never have [...]

Finding Your Centre in the Middle of the Storm

By |2020-03-24T15:47:34-04:00March 24th, 2020|Categories: Hope, Meditation, Mystic Life, Spiritual Growth|

Many years ago, my first teacher told me that I needed to find my “personal reference points” to find true inner peace. He said that as long as I defined my personal comfort zone based on circumstances, “things” or people around me, I would always be susceptible to my world getting turned upside down. I needed to find an inner definition of self that was unchanging so that no matter what changed around me, I would always have my centre. So, what are these reference points that he speaks of? Times of “No Thought” “Even in ordinary life you feel the futility of words. And if you don’t feel the futility of words, that shows that you have not been alive at all, that shows that you’ve lived very superficially… When for the first time something starts happening which is beyond words, life has happened to you… When the [...]

How to Not Be Overwhelmed in Times of Mass-Hysteria

By |2020-03-24T15:47:13-04:00March 24th, 2020|Categories: Uncategorized|

Sensitive people are often considered “empaths”. This means that they literally feel other people’s emotions in the same way that a psychic can read your mind. We are all empathic to a point. But, as in all giftings, some people are much more than others. And for these people, times such as these are extremely difficult. You can leave the house feeling just fine. You have had your coffee. Maybe you meditated. You have thought about what is going on in the world and have come to some kind of peace about it. And then, you step outside of the door. You see empty streets. You see people walking 6 feet apart from each other, afraid to touch anything that someone else might have touched. Afraid that someone might cough. But more than that, you can feel the fear and panic in other people. Suddenly, your system is overwhelmed with so much input, your mind [...]

How to Take Advice from Everyone

By |2020-02-29T17:12:16-04:00February 29th, 2020|Categories: Uncategorized|

Everyone is an Oracle I am always open to anything anyone tells me. It doesn’t matter if you are someone I love and respect or someone who pushes my buttons and makes me angry. I always like hearing what you have to say… well maybe not right away, but in the end, it’s always awesome. This is because I treat everyone like they are an oracle which means that they aren’t necessarily saying the truth. They are simply saying what I need to hear in that moment. The Matrix One of my favourite scenes from the Matrix is when Neo goes to visit the oracle: Neo: And [the oracle] knows what, everything? Morpheus: She would say she knows enough. Neo: And she's never wrong. Morpheus: Try not to think of it in terms of right and wrong. She is a guide. She can help you to find the path. [...]